Rails 3 Override Destroy without Canceling callbacks, and triggering a ROLLBACK

My desired behavior is that when destroy is called on an instance, that instance will not actually be destroyed, but it will just be marked as开发者_开发问答 having been destroyed. This needs to percolate up for any model associations.

In the models that I don't want to actually destroy, but just mark them as deleted I have a deactivated field.

From what I can tell the < v3.0.0 way of doing this was to override destroy_without_callbacks (That's the way ActsAsParanoid does it), however that method no longer exists in 3.0.0, plus I'm not excited about overriding private methods.

I also tried implementing callbacks, but per the docs any changes made in the call backs are part of the transaction, and are thus rolled-back as well.

My callback looks like:

  after_destroy :mark_deactivated

  def mark_deactivated
    if self.respond_to?(:deactivated) then
      self.deactivated = DateTime.now
      self.save
      false
    else
      true
    end
  end

How can I prevent the actual destruction of my record without stopping callback, and having my changes rolled-back?

Check out this gem: https://github.com/wireframe/delete_paranoid