Practical guide to programming paradigms?

I think I might be misunderstanding the whole thing and I am lookin开发者_如何学运维g for some programming wisdom.

When faced with a programming challenge, I feel the most important question is "which programming paradigm(s) are better suited to handle it, and how to apply them". A distant second is "which language to use".

Yet it seems that most of the programming related content I stumble upon on the Internet has it exactly backwards and focuses mostly on the language choice.

An object-oriented solution is fundamentaly the same, whether it's implemented in c++, Java or PHP...

So where is the paradigm centered content?

Where is the "practical guide to programming paradigms and implementations" and other literature helping bringing real-world and programming concepts together?

Note: I already know about "Programming Paradigms for Dummies: What Every Programmer Should Know" from Peter Van Roy.

That would only work if you were completely comfortable with all possible programming paradigms. Few people are, so it makes more sense to take a pragmatic approach and ask "Which programming language that I know well is best suited for solving this particular problem?"